Pursue Spiritual and Emotional Health

Continuing the topic of sacred siblings, let's consider the top priority if you want to work together with men in such a sacred sibling partnership. I believe your number one goal should be the pursuit of spiritual and emotional health.

First, we must become a sister from the inside out. That means that we work hard to become spiritually and emotionally healthy. We commit to knowing God intimately. We talk to Him through a constant attitude of prayer. We seriously work toward emotional health.

We all have baggage, problems, hurts, weaknesses, faults, quirks, idiosyncrasies, and sin. We hurt because we were not loved perfectly by our parents, spouses, or friends. We lack a mother to cheer us on or a father to protect us. We have no extended family or a quirky extended family. We all share this human condition—we all live in a fallen world. The question is what have we done with our lack? Have we used it to excuse immaturity? Or have we committed to the hard work of achieving spiritual and emotional health? Only healthy siblings can work honorably together. 

When we are spiritually and emotionally healthy, our emotional tanks are filled by God and not people. When we are healthy we don’t need affirmation from the other gender to feel worthwhile and whole. When we are spiritually and emotionally healthy, we are not nearly as vulnerable to inappropriate emotional attachments that wound our siblings and dishonor God.

Sisters, our first order of business, if we want to earn a place by our brother’s side, is to be ruthless in our pursuit of spiritual and emotional health. Pay the price, carve out the time, do whatever is necessary to be a sister from the inside out.