Just a couple things:

1. "The authoress" was not my comment, if you'll read the one I posted: I was posting a quote from a very able greekist; the posts after that one, I posted tired and not paying enough attention, and grumpily: and I'm very sorry.
2. "Ess" at the end of "author" is merely feminizing "author". Personally I don't really see that as too offensive, however I think he probably was in writing: just as probably any very careful teacher is when they feel someone is handling the text very poorly (as the rest of the e-mail he sent indicated, which I did not post). "Grace" goes both ways: we both give and deal, and if there's a problem with his tone I could relay a message for you: he's quite nice, and more serious than most, I think, about due caution.
3. The offensive thing, I think, is that this text isn't cultural: I think the comments regarding perhaps couples going to some brother is great (rather than individuals to the opposite sex); I think those kinds of considerations...masterful! But in regards the text itself, you get that part: and that part is just text, it's not so much "cultural": "it is not permitted to them...". Personally I am (and, increasingly I've observed increasingly more Christians are) getting frustrated with will-nilly handling of the texts, poor teaching, and excitement declaration of opinion on it, rather than paying it close attention: not only because it's the "irreverent babble" that the word declares is false religion that spreads through the Church like gangrene, being uninformed by the word, but when it's specifically by botching the word...not good.
4. Also, I do myself think more than just a bit of tone of my own came off too seriously: and for that, I apologize; I do admit, I am frustrated with the way people treated the Bible these days; including this post (more in another comment).
5. I'd be careful, personally, to promote chatter on a text without someone being qualified to do so.
6. It is outlandish to propose something unheard of, when you don't even know about the Greek, before asking anybody qualified, contrary to every word study, commentary, resources, lexicon...and my first post, I believe, wasn't offensive in tone until, perhaps, the "dumb arguments" part (the text before that is meant to be factual and condensed: which probably doesn't help is sound as friendly as it does sterile and cold). If it 'twas, I apologize sincerely.