Yeah, you could be right. Those darn Greeks and their word order. Didn't they know how difficult it would be for us 2000 years later to figure out which verb the dative modified? The only thing that makes me put it with the main verb is cuz it's passive. A search on this construction would be helpful, but I have a pumpkin party to attend. Maybe later? Someone should write an article on this. 

And your friend has a point. It would have certainly been more than rude for a woman to correct a man in public in the first century Roman world and it would have reflected quite poorly on her husband also.