I took five semesters of Greek in seminary and didn't pick it up either!

I know what you mean about women who stayed silent in a context Paul never intended. That's why my friend said he thinks the church owes women an apology. (I also want to note, though, that this friend is complementarian. He believes other passages speak to women and authority, but he doesn't believe this passage speaks to women speaking or not speaking in church.)

I'm glad you're in a church now that blanaces this better than you've seen in the past. The husband-wife team sounds like it's working well.