I am a born again Christian for almost 40 years. I do not believe it has anything to do with us, we, them, winning or loosing, but about "God's Children" "John 1:12" and obeying the God of the Bible through Jesus Christ. I know what the Bible says on Homosexuality and all types of other sins that "everyone" commits. You asked for confirmation "where is the proper place to stand" sounds like you are asking man's approval on what God has said very clearly in His Word. As for People having more contempt for Christians, that's GOOD! "2 Tim 3:12" That's very clear in his Word also. You stated "I don't know why I'm against the GOVERNMENT allowing gay marriage. It does not impose on "my" faith and it won't cause "me" to change my position on homosexuality." SIN should always impose on ones faith. Sin effects all of society in a negative way. Sin destroys society. Sin took Jesus to the Cross. People who continue in "any" type of Sexual Immorality are lost sinners that our Lord died for. Lost people should absolutely impose on us believers, that's you and me. They will die one day and spend an eternity in Hell apart from God. What God has done is allow us believers to be imposed upon. "Matt 28:16-20," We tell the good news and we suffer the "temporary earthly consequences" but have eternal heavenly rewards. You asked about "public policy." I just wonder what Jesus will say when someone stands before his thrown and says "public policy said I could.........." Do you think He might say "well done good and faithful servant" or "depart from me I never knew you."
That question really is a no brainer. Hope this was not to hard. Love can be tough, and actually, really is, but never fails. If you are still studying I pray the Word and God's Spirit will be your ultimate guide in ALL questions and decisions.
Love
Terry Scott